tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2364014399716631400.post6020359238518555868..comments2023-04-30T02:49:59.817+12:00Comments on Empty Nest: Lesbians, penis envy and other related mattersunPC lesbianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03965837109136213527noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2364014399716631400.post-48786750938694131062008-02-02T15:07:00.000+13:002008-02-02T15:07:00.000+13:00I feel passionately about the issues polyamory (po...I feel passionately about the issues polyamory (poly = many, amory = love) raises for us, because so much of our socioeconomic system and culture relies on people unquestioningly following the structure of monogamy. <BR/><BR/>I do understand that critically and independently deconstructing the monogamous hegemony socialized into the western world's psyche from birth - and intentionally restructuring it - can be confusing at the least, and threatening/disgusting at most, to many people. <BR/><BR/>In that space between what we (think we) know (the "thesis," if you will accept the Marxist dialectical theory's terminology for a moment), and the new/crazy/threatening/unknown/unpracticed idea (the "antithesis"), lays a path of learning and enlightenment which we can choose to tread with openness (ie. approaching the new idea with curiosity, and taking in new information and ideas without judging them), and *then* make and examined and hopefully slightly more critically formulated decision on what we think and how we see the world (the "synthesis"). <BR/><BR/>So, for the purposes of this post:<BR/>Monogamy = Thesis<BR/>Polyamory = Antithesis<BR/>Your new view = Synthesis<BR/><BR/>Which is why, before jumping to conclusions such as "not in love," or "unfaithful," "bisexual," etc. i ask that you take a moment to read below.<BR/><BR/>Sexual orientation has been equated with gender because of our polarized and binary way of viewing both sexuality and gender. The current English language does not have the capacity to deal with the myriad and fluid forms many people's sexuality and gender comes in. <BR/><BR/>What is the word for a biological female who is attracted to post-op transmen? What do we call a pre-op transwoman who is mainly attracted to women? Many have attempted to introduce simple linguistic evolutions to our language - Leslie Feinberg, for example, using the pronouns "ze" as a replacement for "she/he", or "hir" as a replacement for "his/her".<BR/><BR/>What if, for a moment, you consider that when i wanted to sleep with that boy so many months ago and got kicked out of my home, it was actually because that night i was feeling more like a gay boy than a straight boy or lesbian? Clearly you can't tag me as “bisexual” for this? <BR/><BR/>The nuclear family (two parents – usually assumed to be in a heterosexual union, and kids) is a relatively new invention for the human species. Indeed, for the entirety of human history in all places on our pretty little planet, prior to the industrial revolution (ok i gotta check my facts on this one, but i think this is correct), we lived with communal spaces that you didn't have to “pay” to be in, unlike the internet cafe i am currently in, and in built structures that housed at least our entire extended family. Why the drastic and rapid change? Because it's better for profit. I can make SO MUCH MORE MONEY if i sell your family, your sister's family, your parents', your grocery provider, and that other kid down the street each your own separate, shiny, new television. Eh.<BR/><BR/>But what now if we lived and shared, explored, and grew our experience of what it is to be human with people we not only loved, but were also intimately and physically connected with? Suddenly our cost of living goes down (imagine the savings on dildos alone, if a community of 8 lovers all shared!), and we do not spend so much time and energy keeping “what is mine”, be it material goods or a physically intimate relationship.<BR/><BR/>There are many common misconceptions about what an “open” or “polyamorous” relationship consists of. And i have seen some pretty ugly ones myself. I am working with my current partner and two lovers (all of different genders and sexual orientations) to openly and honestly develop and live in a structure of relationship that we create and explore together. It is difficult, but i believe it is worth it. Nobody has to hide anything from each other, as long as we can be totally honest with ourselves, and with those we love. <BR/><BR/>However, for now, i have to end this already long-winded post because i am supposed to be applying for jobs. <BR/><BR/>Please take this for what it is – an off the top of my head response written while pretending to write up my CV. If there is any interest in this subject i will actually go and research, and write a proper piece. <BR/><BR/>Lotsa love ;)<BR/>baby dyke AV techieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2364014399716631400.post-37933602755021762652007-10-14T21:18:00.000+13:002007-10-14T21:18:00.000+13:00My husband's a Lesbian LOLMy husband's a Lesbian LOLMuralismohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11072280277957456503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2364014399716631400.post-27876653025062030632007-09-24T08:48:00.000+12:002007-09-24T08:48:00.000+12:00I want to know what happened with Grumpy, Puppy, a...I want to know what happened with Grumpy, Puppy, and Alpha. Sounds like a great reality tv series.Mrs Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13864664806865081684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2364014399716631400.post-2277442894296204392007-09-23T23:57:00.000+12:002007-09-23T23:57:00.000+12:00I know what you mean about open relationships - a ...I know what you mean about open relationships - a bloke I know is in one where it's patently obvious that they just don't love each other anymore.<BR/>Very sad..<BR/><BR/>Notably baby dyke AV techie girl's girlfriend wanted to kick her out for a clearly signalled desire to be unfaithful.<BR/>Which sex she wanted to do it with seems <BR/>immaterial - it's the commitment that counts.<BR/><BR/>I agree with CK that sex is a gender issue if only because the sexes view nookie with slightly different ends in view - I think that males still don't take lesbian sex seriously and tend to view it as a dalliance rather than a serious choice.<BR/>The whole thing that guys have for watching women get together seems like total bollocks to me - all the lesbos I've met are interested in each other, not penises.<BR/><BR/>How about serial monogamy? Works for me..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2364014399716631400.post-65546103429140480482007-09-23T03:02:00.000+12:002007-09-23T03:02:00.000+12:00UnPC - I think this woman is what is termed by obs...UnPC - I think this woman is what is termed by observers as a bisexual.<BR/><BR/>You must see it from another point of view. As a female how mortified would you be to know your boyfriend sticks his dick up other men's botties? While most men have no issues imagining two women together I can honestly say I have never met a woman who is happy that their boyfriend is rooting other men.<BR/><BR/>That's why sex is a gender issue!Cactus Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10136331420768264938noreply@blogger.com